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Friday, January 6, 2012

Daddy Dear

“They say that from the instant he lays eyes on her, a father adores his daughter. Whoever she grows up to be, she is always to him that little girl in pigtails. She makes him feel like Christmas. In exchange, he makes a secret promise not to see the awkwardness of her teenage years, the mistakes she makes or the secrets she keeps.”
— Everwood

The bond between fathers and daughters is said to be one of the sweetest loves with a lifelong ripple effect. Moms raise the girls and Daddies spoil them. A father's love for his little girl should be wrapped up in adventure and adoration, fishing and fingernail painting. Dads have a way of making us feel strong and beautiful through our tears and scrapped knees. The signs of an active, or absent, father leaves footprints on a girl's heart that she may not be aware of.

I have always been close with my Mom as her only child, but my father and I have a mutual understanding and appreciation that is unique. We're like bohemian nerds that share the same wavelength. As I've gotten older his shoulder and his ear still bend for me whenever I need him. And though he might be an unlikely candidate, he is who I go to for most advice about my marriage. Now that I have a daughter I pray that she and I will have more fun than fights, and that I will be her confidante. However, I'm excited about the thought of her and my husband's budding relationship. He was busy selecting poems for her before she was born, and his special love for her is easy to see.

I found a great article recently written by Michael Mitchell, 50 Rules for Dads of Daughters, that inspired this post. Check it out :-)


Spiritual Ninja said...

with 2 girls, I am beginning to understand the nuances of being a Daddy for my girls.

It is indeed sweet.

p.s Girl, I KNOW you have better pics of you walking up the aisle than that!!!

ShoMommy said...

Thanks for the comment Spiritual Ninja (great name btw!) I do have lots of pics of Daddy and I, but for some reasont his grainy one from someone cell phone is my fave.

Racquel said...
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Racquel said...

Great post, Deanna. I thought that I'd share something my dad said a while back (paraphrased):
"I've always hated that term 'baby daddy' and the phrase 'any man can make a baby, but it takes a real man to be a father.' To me, 'father' is a formal term; it's distant. 'Daddy' is what your little girl calls you when she trusts you, loves you - it's a term of affection. I'd rather be a 'daddy' than a 'father' anyday."

Lady MgAnthony said...

Daddy, daughter relationships are no doubt special. As a woman who did not know her natural father my father figures (your dad and Papa) were so special to me. I can tell you so many stories of how they impacted me. I agree with Racquel's dad's comments. I do so adore, though, witnessing the special bond shared between dads and daughters. My husband has two older daughter's in addition to our new little girl and even though they are way grown I can still see that they will always be his "girls" in his eyes. I see it in his decisions and how he interacts with them. He even has a different connection to my daughter Megan than she and I have. I'm looking forward (with some anxiety) to experiencing his relationship with Wendelaya. I am hoping for balance and not just totally indulgence.

skip.davis said...

Daddy Loves his cute little Bohemian Nerd Always and Forever.
GOD Bless You.