Earlier this month I started contacting some Fathers to create a special Dad's Day project. As to be expected MommyMorphosis typically focuses on the transformative effect becoming a parent has had on my life, as well as offer my take on issues in child rearing, education, relationships, etc. Today I'm doing something that I've been thinking about for a while. Most often Moms are presented as the authorities on parenting; but doting Dads have a voice too! In honor of Father's Day I invited men that I know to be loving, active Dads to write about their experiences and how children have enriched their lives. I was overwhelemed with the number of men willing to assist me by sharing their family stories; it goes to show that there is a lot of love and emotion just under the surface of the most masculine exteriors. I hope to continue working with fathers as guest bloggers, so Dads, if what you read in this post inspires you to pen something of your own please send it to firstname.lastname@example.org Take the time to today to celebrate Dads that are making a difference and don't get the recognition they deserve!
My name is Ugo from the House of Nwokolo. Husband to Funmi and Father to Ronke, Kosi and Ugo. I am 36 yrs old. I am working to be a Network Engineer and also a kickass photographer.
We have been married for 8 lovely years that I wouldn't trade for anything. The only way it could be better would be if I could clone my wife and marry her again.
Best Thing about being a Dad: The Super powers. I love being able to get my kids to do things that their mommy couldnt do. For 6 months, I had the ability to silence my 9 month old with a look. I could make her eat the same cereal that she previously refused and she loved my hugs. I love being a Super hero to my kids. They think I am soo awesome and they make me be and feel that I have to be better to live up to their adulation.
I love the way my girls nestle in my arms and rest. They feel safe in my arms and I will contort my body into crazy uncomfortable positions to keep them sleeping soundly.
I think the best thing about being a Dad is teaching your kids things that their mother wouldnt or couldnt teach them. It really hits home how important it is to have that Male/Female model to raising your children.
The Most Scary thing about being a Dad: Worrying about making a mistake. Scared that I will make a decision that will affect my family in a way that I cant rectify.
The Most Difficult thing about being a Dad: Recaiming the time with my wife. Children are natural cockblockers. They suck up all attention and parents can easily fall into the trap of putting all your time with your kids and ignoring the Marriage aspect.
I find that a new role of the father is being the Protector of the Marriage. Working to make sure that you find creative ways to be together and have that intimate Husband/wife time that grows your marriage.
Daddy lesson learned: I dont have to worry about having enough love for all my kids. My heart grows with each child.
There are two requests that I should always agree or pay attention to:
1- Daddy, can I sit on your lap? -- This is a request that you must always acquiese to.
2- Daddy, please look at me! -- You need to always listen to your girls when they ask that. Your attention is very important to them.
My role in the Family: I dont know how to respond to this. I am the Daddy. The bringer of the fun. The discipline enforcer. Co bread winner.
I want to be the Father that my kids call almost everyday to solict my advice and companionship.
How my kids describe me: The Best daddy ever
I'm Chris Davis of course... currently I'm 33. I own my company PNKSLP LLC (like us on FB, follow us on Twitter and IG). I personally designed a table top network marketing board game. I've been married for 11 years and have 5 boys no girls! (yay) My wife and I have 4 boys together and I had my 1st son while in college.
The best part of being a dad is knowing that I am raising boys to be men and one day they will be able to thank God for having a father, dad, and man in their life. The scariest part of being a dad seeing them 1st come out and wondering if you will be able to take care of and provide for them. The most difficult part is knowing when to and when not to discipline. It's also difficult to know whether or not you are doing the right then at the right time. It's super frustrating to see your child struggle and know that it's up to you to all them to grow through the struggle because the struggle will make them better.
Becoming a parent has changed me tremendously. I hug more. Go to school and help with projects and prior to having my own I probably wouldn't have ever been involved at such a high level. Since becoming a dad I've learned that you teach train and love as much as often and as hard as you can you don't stop until you are gone from this world because all children male or female need their dad's perspective and his keen eye. I've learn that you must give your children affection, attention, approval and affirmation. I strive to be the dad that is tough and loving at the same time. Gentle and caring but firm and I'll whoop that ass if you fuck up again after I've told you to get right! My children would describe me as a loving mean, caring dad.
My name is Donald Andrews and I am Senior Sales Associate for the Byers Auto Group in Columbus, OH. I live in a small town right outside of Columbus, OH named Pickerington. One of my goals that drives me the most is developing a rehabilitation center for the homeless, addicted and afflicted. I'm talking about job training, ethics training, interactive life training, etc. I want to prepare those individuals that need help transitioning into society for the first time and those that need help that have tried and failed.
I have a fiancé and our two children. Both of my children are by the same woman, who I intend to spend the rest of my life with. I have been married once at a very young age, but I never gave up on the idea of love and family.
The best part about being a father is watching all of the wisdom you attempt to instill in your children manifest itself when they are away from you. I have a daughter and its different than having a son. I see my daughter as someone I have to protect. I see my son and see all my faults become perfect.
The scariest thought of being a parent is having my children away from me in the presence of IMMEDIATE danger. I rarely get frustrated and nothing seems difficult. I am only concerned with their safety. The one thing that changed me because of my children is realizing what I missed out on with my father. They have alerted me to a void that I didn't even realize that was there. Learning that two opinions are better than one. The way I rationalize my actions completely revolves around my children. The love you have for your children cant be described in words.
I have always depended on myself because my mother has had to do the same. I do all the laundry, cooking and cleaning because I trust me to do it the best. I work and work hard. The way I show love to my children is by teaching them ethical values, being appreciative and never take things for granted.
My daughter would describe as a warden. I do not let anything slide with her. On the other side of that coin she would say that I am her protection. Nothing and I mean nothing happens to her without it happening to me first. If it does, pray. My first born is my baby girl. My son will tell you that he can talk to me about anything. He is 5. Male to male, we have a bond that is unique. I see him and see perfection. If you asked him, he would tell you that I am the best daddy in the whole wide world. He tells me that every day no lie. Crazy thing is he never wants anything when he does say it.
Bottom line is that as I matriculate through parenthood, I learn something everyday. My children are my most precious aspect of life because they need me to feel that way. Purpose. As a parent I used to wonder what life was like before them or why it mattered before them. Now I know that everything I have ever been through was to prepare me to lead my family. Footprints in the sand doesn't come from one generation. The journey is real. With proper guidance and the instillation of thick moral fabric, my children will be in the best position to leave noticeable and positive world footprints that effect lives and communities here and abroad.
Wess Walters, 35
Entrepreneur, Television editor.
Hobbies- perfecting my craft.
Family description: Divorce
Best part of being a Dad: Watching my kids grow.
Most scary: Watching my kids get hurt. Surprising-being amazed of how much more advance my kids are than I am at the same age. Difficult- Not spending as much time as I would like because of work. Frustrating-balancing time with the world and time with them.
How becoming a parent has changed you? Or, what you've learned about life, love or yourself since becoming a father?
Becoming a parent has made me do everything with a purpose. I’m no longer able to quit, because now if I tell my kids “not to give up”, then I would be a hypocrite.
Your role in the family, how do you fit in? What kind of Father you strive to be, etc? I’m the head of the house. I strive to be like in the image of Malcolm X, with the discipline of Bruce Lee with the humor, compassion and the ability to express love like Mr. Huxtable.
How would your children describe you? The best kids on earth.
How would your children describe you? “Daddy you are the bestest daddy ever”!
My name is Ed and I’m 33 years old. I currently reside in Springfield, IL, but was born and raised in Chicago (city proper). I’ve been married to my wife, Amanda, for 8 WONDERFUL years, but we’ve been together since 1999. We have two very handsome sons, Carter and Spencer, 4 years and 11 months in age respectively. I am a very proud parent. Oftentimes, in public, I certainly become my own father as I am speechless by the love and adoration strangers will show towards my children. That is not the best part of being a father. Rather, I love reading to my oldest and listening to him read back to me. It seems just yesterday Carter was learning how to walk.
OCCUPATION/PERSONAL DESCRIPTION: I studied Visual Communications at the
World Renowned Grambling State University and have been doing
professional graphic design work since 1996. I'm a very simple guy
that really doesn't require much to be happy or should I say content.
I enjoy sports! Playing and watching mostly at my age! Not that I'm
all that old but time really doesn't permit me to participate like
when I was younger.
GROWING UP FAMILY BACKGROUND DESCRIPTION: I'm the youngest of my
mother's children (1 older Brother)! She re-married a few years ago
but had been dating the same man (since divorcing my father in the 7th
grade) whom I consider a very influential and positive male role model
in my life growing up. He had two sons that I also considered my
brothers growing up, both older than I; still making me the baby of
the bunch. My father also got re-married and had two more children and
son and daughter whom I never was very close to only due to the fact
of age difference and geographical location as by that time I had gone
to college and moved out of state! However, I do remain in contact
with them and see them occasionally at family gatherings.
MY FAMILY DESCRIPTION: I am married father of 4 girls (21, 13, 8, 5)
three of which are living with my wife and I who gave birth to the two
youngest. I had my first child while in college at 21 she's now in
college. Years later I met the mother of my 13 year old and we didn't
have a good breakup and I fought tooth and nail to gain custody
finally winning for good when she was 3 and a half years old! The two
youngest girls (by my as I stated earlier) were the only ones that I
was actually present in the delivery room for! Those were an
experience that I truly wished that I had with ALL my kids.
BEST PART ABOUT BEING A DAD: I get asked this question from
time-to-time and typically my response is the same. When I come home
from work and they rush the door and jump in my arms screaming
"DADDY'S HOME!" But since I've changed hours at work I'm the one that
actually picks them up from school so now I guess the best part about
being a dad is being able to kiss them goodnight everyday!
THE MOST SCARY PART OF BEING A DAD: Is NOT being able to get them to
open up when I KNOW something is wrong with them! Mainly that 13 year
old. What frustrates me the most about being a father is knowing that
no matter how well I rear my children it only takes one wayward friend
to have a bad influence on them and foul up all my years of
FAMILY ROLE: Since I'm the first parent that gets off of work, it's my
responsibility to make get the girls from school, make sure that
homework is being done and cook dinner for them. Besides providing a
financial stability I try and instill a strong sense of self-pride and
self-worth for my girls. Making sure that they know and hear me say on
a daily basis that they are beautiful and smart and very capable of
achieving anything that they are willing to work hard/smart for.
HOW BECOMING A FATHER CHANGED MY LIFE: This one is kind of tricking
for the fact that I've always been a family oriented type of guy.
Always enjoyed being among family and friend extended or not. Being a
father just allowed me to first focus more on my own kids rather than
HOW WOULD MY CHILDREN DESCRIBE ME: I think my kids would describe me
as fair, firm and fun! ( http://www.youtube.com/watch?
Listen... I have ALL girls so I'm NOT the disciplinarian in the house!
That role goes to my wife by design. Not to say that I won't
discipline them, it's just in my head I don't want them to grow up
thinking that it is okay for a man to lay hands on them. I really
don't know if this philosophy of mine is gonna translate into the real
world but I pray that it does because I instill in them that it is NOT
okay for a man or anyone to place their hands on them without
IN CONCLUSION: If I had to rate myself as a dad on a scale from 1-10,
I'd give myself a 9 because although I believe that I'm always there
for my children there is always room for improvement.
Your life's work: Occupation, professional or entrepurnial goals, personal cause or passion, voluteer, hobbies...
Most scary, surprising, difficult, frustrating part:
Nothing's scary anymore, Zoey has fallen down brick stairs, fallen and rolled on blacktop, popped her wrist out of socket, fallen from the bed to the floor while asleep, hurt her teeth, scraped her knees and just about everything else that comes with being a teenage skateboarder. In short, Zoey could stand in for Jackie Chan with the amount of stunts she's
Your role in the family, how do you fit in? What kind of Father you strive to be, etc?
How would your children describe you?
When we meet people, Zoey often takes it upon herself to make the introduction in her sweet 3-year old voice: "Hi it's me, Zoey. This is my daddy, his name is Stephen" and I wouldn't have it any other way :)